This is the love season, yall. Everyone starts thinking about chocolate, flowers and dinners for two. And that is great however, let's not get it twisted. Those things are not synonymous with love. Love has to do with connection or secure-attachment according to Sue Johnson. Love has less to do with romance and more to do with being emotionally safe in a relationship, which results in the ability to communicate more effectively, resolve conflict and forgive more readily and listen for/attend to your partners needs (within reason, of course).
So, as you celebrate your Valentine's Day, think about how you and your partner can love beyond one day. And by loving each other, it can even help with improving your sex life! Why? When you don't trust your partner's communication, it's tough to be vulnerable and if sex is a meaningful emotional expression of connection to you, it will be tough to perform without it simply being mechanical. So, talk about it and resolve the conflict before dinner and "dessert". Your Valentine's experience may be better after the tough discussion. Enjoy!!!